We form highly complicated bonds called relationships throughout our lives as people. Our interpersonal ties seem to be the center of our daily life. Our relationship with one another also appears to define us. I believe the term “relationship” may be used to describe all of the relationships we have, including those with our families, friends, and romantic partners. However, it appears that the word “relationship” is most often used to refer to romantic partners.
Maintaining healthy and fruitful relationships can occasionally be very difficult. One’s emotional ups and downs seem to have a significant impact on how their relationship is doing right now. There are a lot of books and articles out there that seem to offer an awful lot of nonsense on how to maintain a successful and healthy relationship.
All these articles do is provide you with the “intellectual treatment” on how to alter your own or your partner’s behavior in order to achieve a favorable result, but none of them, to my observation, seem to address the root of today’s relationship issues. In my humble view, the root of all the issues is a lack of communication.
At this point, I’d want to question the general populace: What is communication? Some of you might respond, “Conveying your message to the other person,” to this question. Although I wouldn’t say you are fully incorrect, I also wouldn’t say you are entirely correct. To me, communication is a two-way street.
You must respond in kind when your spouse communicates with you. Let’s look at a marital scenario as an example. The woman laments, “You don’t love me anymore, you don’t make much time for us anymore,” while the husband appears to be working nonstop to put food on the table. This is a typical example that many of us have probably witnessed.
If you have bias, it is evident that you will support one side in this situation. But it seems to me that the communication issue is what undermines this case. Here, both parties must successfully express their wants in a language that the other can understand.
A significant issue in this context is language. I don’t necessarily mean the dialect that a person uses to communicate. Instead, I’m referring to the motion. Some people use touch as a language, while others use affirmations to express themselves. These so-called languages are unique to each individual.
It has a significant impact on a person’s relationship status. Imagine a situation where a woman craves occasional affirmation from her partner, but the partner always seems to be off. Therefore, there appears to be some animosity in the connection. Actually, what’s going on here is that the guy doesn’t know how to speak the affirmational language. We can observe that they are not moving about in a healthy manner as a result.
My daily experiences greatly aggravate me. I have many buddies who are romantically involved with some of my other friends. They don’t seem to get along all that well, as I can see. I frequently ponder how these issues might be resolved.
I can speak from personal experience when I say that I’ve never been great at relationships. I used to be a really cautious and insecure person, but now I know that I must grow as a person. I see myself improving in terms of relationships.
We observe that the contemporary world is populated with people who are insecure and self-conscious. They have a propensity to get quickly envious of small things. The partner getting envious of other friends is one of the major issues I see on a daily basis. It’s as though one person wants to be alone with the other.
It could seem like love to certain people. But what you may give your lover instead is a really toxic kind of love. Relationship means a bond that we forge in order to advance together, in my opinion. To challenge one another to reach our best potential.
We frequently see things around the idea that “you take care of me and I will take care of you,” which is a serious problem that goes unchecked. I humbly submit that my views on this matter be different. We should all strive to live by the motto “I will take care of me, for you, and you take care of yourself for me.” This sentence has a completely new meaning as a result of this minor word change.
First, this conflict cultivates a love of oneself. If anyone ever questioned you, “Who do you love the most?” what would you say? Some people might respond with anything like “mother,” “father,” or “your partner.” It could also be someone’s friend. I believe the first response applies to most since people on the Indian subcontinent have a tendency to be much more in love with their family members. But in my opinion, “Yourself” is the finest response to this query. See, how could you possibly love someone else if you can’t even love yourself? Even if you claim to, it won’t be the most pure type of love.
No more circling the haystack in search of the needle. I’ve outlined ten straightforward strategies for you to actually contribute to your relationship and make it a pleasant one in this article:
10 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONG, HEALTHY AND HAPPY
As I’ve mentioned before, communication is essential in a healthy relationship. You must express your demands and desires to your partner in a clear and effective manner. The main issue we encounter in a relationship is that every partner expects us to anticipate their needs and wishes and then act on them.
We are not telepaths with the ability to read minds, however, in this ordinary human world. Therefore, efficient communication is essential. Even when one spouse has expressed their needs and desires in the appropriate manner, there are situations when those needs are not realized because one partner is unable to reciprocate. Therefore, communication and reciprocation go hand in hand.
2. Remember the small things!
Always keep in mind that showing someone little acts of love will always produce amazing outcomes. What exactly do I mean when I say “small acts of love”? This typically involves cooking their favorite food, wearing their favorite outfit, and complementing them. Another option is to give your partner a present, a treat, or even a massage to brighten their day. These little acts of kindness add up to all the love you have and will eventually assist you in building a stronger relationship.
The rivers are not flooded by prolonged periods of heavy rain; rather, it is the shorter bursts of rain that cause the flood. Therefore, remember to occasionally show little acts of affection. Your relationship’s chemistry is greatly enhanced by this.
3. The “Thank-You.”
A simple “thank you” goes a long way. Thank you signals your appreciation for their kind act of kindness. Anyone in our world would desire recognition for their efforts. People can get emotional burnout after spending so much time in a relationship if they feel unappreciated. Your relationship’s foundation may begin to crumble as a result of emotional exhaustion. Your mental health can be seriously harmed.
Take two couples over here. One couple’s gestures are always greatly appreciated in their life. While the other pair hardly acknowledges each other’s displays of affection. Who do you believe will be happier? You may have guessed by now that a couple that values one another has a better chance of maintaining a strong, loving bond.
4. Letting go of the grudges from the past.
People in Western nations frequently have a prior relationship before getting married. This truth might not apply in conservative and traditional nations, though. We can therefore make the broad assumption that the majority of us have had some exes.
Keeping resentments against your current partner from their past can be detrimental to your relationship. Not only that, but conflicts arise frequently in relationships. We all say things we shouldn’t have spoken when we are angry. And even after we resolve the immediate problem, some people continue to harbor resentment towards what the other person stated.
If you really want to stay on top of things. Keep track of the current state of your connection, whether it is flourishing or not, rather than all the grudges you have ever harbored. If not, focus on the things you can. There are instances when sitting down with your partner and discussing your grievances can be quite helpful.
5. Showing affection
Affection is a flow between two people in which there is constant contact and interaction between the two. Holding hands, snuggling, and encircling their waist with your hands are all effective ways to show someone you care about them. Affection conveys a sense of value to the other person.
Anyone who wants to be confident must first feel valued, and a confident person will always take their relationships seriously. You can actually strengthen the roots of your relationship by expressing affection.
6. Give each other space
Don’t forget to respect your partner’s privacy. What we do wrong in this situation is that whenever someone enters a relationship, they begin to believe that their partner’s entire time and space are exclusively theirs. This kind of emotion might lead to jealousy with your partner and eventually jeopardize the steadfast bond you had hoped to establish.
I’m not going to say that a couple in a relationship shouldn’t hang together more frequently. Instead, I urge you to allow your partner to spend time alone, unrelated to your relationship. Everyone ought to lead a separate life from their partnership.
7. Adjust your expectations: BE REALISTIC.
It goes without saying that you will have expectations of your partner if you are in a relationship. In a relationship, having expectations is common, but the main question is what kind of expectations. You should constantly set reasonable goals for your relationship.
You’ve probably all heard stories of couples surprising their loved ones with stars and moons. However, if you stop to consider it, is it actually possible? Well, this narrative about the moon and stars is just that. Rather, I’m trying to convey the importance of setting reasonable expectations.
Unrealistic expectations could be expressed as the desire for your partner to adopt other morals, be the source of your entire happiness, or deviate from their inherent masculine or feminine polarity. Your relationship will eventually end due to unrealized expectations.
8. Prepare for obstacles.
The first thing about relationships is that the two people in them are unique from one another. Therefore, you could anticipate occasional ideological dissent. The disparities between you will be the first challenge in a relationship. Recognize that since you are two unique persons, your perspectives and preferences may differ. Recognize and value the differences.
Don’t be afraid to take a break if the issues in the relationship don’t seem to get better. Spending some time apart is okay. Think about what would be best for both of you. Try to work together to find a solution for any problems that may arise along the way.
9. Plan dates and surprises.
A little surprise and the occasional romantic night can go a long way. Create dating nights for your lover to liven up your relationship. Providing surprises for your lover can greatly improve your chemistry. You might question what kind of surprises you can give. You may give them a pet, purchase tickets for their preferred event, take them to a movie night, or perhaps host a surprise birthday party for them.
10. Fight fair.
Never forget that disagreements will inevitably arise in a partnership. Therefore, instead of desiring a partnership devoid of conflict. Make a commitment to yourself that you won’t use dirty tactics when you argue with your partner. A “dirty fight” is using old arguments to turn the tables or saying hurtful things to your partner that you don’t actually mean to.
A healthy relationship is not something you eventually find while traveling through life. Instead, it is something you both develop while working through a variety of challenges. You don’t always trust one another, but sometimes you do. Overcoming the issues will reveal a lovely partnership. These people didn’t just stumble across the ideal relationships we see on social media. For it, they toiled arduously. Therefore, if you desire one for yourself, don’t give up and keep trying.
Writer: Gaurav Mishra