Hello! Plus Size : Love to Know These All Things

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Society will tell you that if you are fat then you are worthless and lazy. And you do not deserve a man who is way out of your league because they are reserved for beautiful ones – the tall and skinny with collar bones that sticks out from their chest and a thigh gap for the world to see. But we are conditioned to think that those are the only things that make a person pretty and worthy of being seen in television, social media and fashion magazines. And there are fat people that don’t belong in that world because they have been told to wear big jumpers and baggy tees , the kind of dress that cover every inch of their body. They are not designed to wear crop tops or short sleeves. It has become clear that popular clothing stores do not cater for curvaceous physiques. The word fat just sounds so negative and ugly.

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It is as if the media refuses to acknowledge that these people are even part of society. I mean it is one thing to say they don’t fit in with the model industry but to ignore them completely – it’s obscene. The reason why this attitude is dangerous is because of the impact it has on people mentally. It creates insecurity and destroys young girls self esteem. When the world focuses so much on body size you start to look at yourself differently. You are more conscious walking down the street filled with guilt and you start watching what you eat obsessively counting calories. The voices in your head keep you up when you are trying to sleep. This is cause you to not think clearly and rationally. It is everywhere you go, the shopping mall , the cinema hall , the library , the school : everywhere! People will be shaming you , blaming you and hating you for who you are.

There will be so much wrath when they will speak to you and about you. And you will hear it often that even now you start to believe that you deserve all this hate, thinking to yourself that maybe the problem is me. Society has made you feel like a prisoner in your own body. From a young age , girls and boys grow up hating the body that they are in. Feeling guilty when they binge like they have committed a unforgiveable sin , a mistake. Thinking that the only way they will ever be happy is if only , maybe just for a day they knew what if felt like to be thin. They will be believing that it will take all there problems away but in reality it does not work that way because it never has.

True happiness comes from within and to do that you need to love the skin you are in any other way and you just won’t win this endless cycle. All you do is keep on sinking and sinking. We are obsessed with body size and there are countless videos on how to lose weight quickly online. Doesn’t that make you feel stupid? These videos are so unhealthy because this is a process and these things take time. According to the famous fashion magazines I have the perfect body size when in reality I am far from okay. I am medically underweight. Just because I can fit into a size zero pair of jeans does not mean my life is great. We have been told and led to believe that if we are skinny then our life will magically fall into places and everything will be happy and okay. But wake up girls, life doesn’t work that way. What defines you is your character , your thoughts , your experiences but not your weight.

Fat will not make a difference , I mean , if you are fat then will you be on bottom of the world? Or will you be on top just because you are fat? Is every skinny girl in modelling field? Because I don’t see my friends being on the runway. ‘Fat’ has been a label in to our body. Labels , that defines us for how we look not for what we are. I mean you can be a kind and generous but still be hated because fat. A big laugh to this statement because that is the reality of the society today. On the other hand, if you ugly on your heart but have a super model body , you are loved and praised. Where is this society going? People would be so cruel , mocking people about what body size they are in.

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But  there has been websites like The Body Is Not An Apology which is a global movement focused on radical self love and body empowerment. We believe that each time one of us unapologetically owns our beauty, loves our scars, and heals our shame, we in turn give others permission to do the same! We believe that discrimination, social inequality, and injustice are manifestations of our inability to make peace with the body – our own bodies and those of others. Fat, F.A.T, it’s not an insult, it’s  not a dirty word, it’s not something that should leave your lips dripping in negativity and hate. A generation we are in where we starve ourselves thin and we are so consumed by expectations and self hate. This had made us feel that we are not good enough since we don’t look the certain way. Like as humans we need to tick boxes to feel self worth only then you can be respected.

All the carbon copy stick thin models look perfect on the outside but on the inside we are all empty. Empty because we don’t have any passions , opinions and nothing interesting to say. Is this really our fate? Well to be honest I refuse for this to be the truth and there is so much more to life – it doesn’t have to be this way. It is all just a sick game society has made and you can either play and live a life filled with shame and self hate or you can be brave and realize your own way where you have the ultimate say. If you want to lose weight , great just make sure you do it in a healthy way. And for the right process and reasons because it will work someday one by one. I will say all of this because even though I don’t know you I might still care. Now I am not condoning excessive eating but I don’t see how fat shaming is helping everyone anyway. When will people realize body positivity is not about encouraging the obesity. It is about allowing people for once in their life to accept their body without feeling ashamed or guilty. So this is why I stress , work on being healthy and make that your priority. Learn to appreciate and love yourself and give yourself a chance to be happy.

This article is emailed by the Writer: Susaan Basel

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Jitendra Sahayogee

I am Jitendra Sahayogee, a writer of 12 Nepali literature books, film director of Maithili film & Nepali short movies, photographer, founder of the media house, designer of some websites and writer & editor of some blogs, has expert knowledge & experiences of Nepalese society, culture, tourist places, travels, business, literature, movies, festivals, celebrations.

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