Gurung Marriage in Nepal
The Nepalese are not kidding about the organization of marriage. They view marriage not just as a union between two individuals and an establishment for the continuation of a family, yet an impression of otherworldly existence and one’s social air.
Considering the different ethnicity of Nepal and the shifted ceremonies of the function among them, the Gurungs don’t neglect to show a similar vigor. For a group that spots high significance on family and convention, marriage is a standout amongst the most customarily rich and unmistakable festivals.
Tamu, as the Gurungs call themselves, is one of the numerous ethnic gatherings of Nepal both regarding their geological circulation and their social cosmetics. The gathering essentially involves the western areas of Nepal. They are especially various in the regions of Gorkha, Lamjung, Kaski, Tanahu, Parbat, Syangja and Manang, all inside the shadow of the Annapurna mountain run.
Albeit situated inside closeness, there are numerous social and social qualifications among the Gurungs. The Ghodane group, for instance, makes up an expansive extent of Gurungs living in Parbat region. Their customs and conventions depict significant social refinement and liberality. In their marriage customs, the Ghodane engage not one but rather three diverse methodologies.
The most widely recognized type of relational unions among the Ghodane is Magi Biwaha, truly ‘Marriage by Proposal’, basically an organized marriage festivity that is normally started by a go-between upon the demand of the perp’s family. Initially, the older folks of the kid’s family approach the cleric, a Lama, who looks at his horoscope graph, which he calls a chiti. He at that point settles on a propitious bearing and period for him to locate an appropriate match.
The Ghodane Gurungs take after a mysterious framework in view of what they call the Barga , which to some degree like Chinese soothsaying including the imagery of 12 creatures to speak to 12 comparing years. The custom of moving toward the Lama for direction is respected to be of outrageous significance for the marriage to be prosperous.
Paying attention to the Lama’s direction and the relational arranger’s determination, the prep’s family gets ready blessings to approach the imminent lady of the hour’s family. Endowments incorporate nourishment such curd in a customary theki (wooden container for conveying milk, curds or alcohols), 100 sel roti (fresh rice doughnuts), a goat, a bowl of the chicken grill and a bowl of chutney (pickle). These are thought to be promising (shagun) blessings from the prep’s side.
Acknowledgment of the blessings by the lady of the hour’s family symbolizes assent; dismissal implies their dissatisfaction. After the theki of curd is acknowledged by the lady of the hour’s family they arrange a little social affair among close family and relatives to declare their endorsement of the marriage.
At that point, the prepare’s family approaches the Lama to affirm the date of marriage and also the similarity of the wedding couple, comparing to their horoscopic barga. A detachment is then sent to the lady of the hour’s family passing on the date, which for the most part takes after inside fourteen days to a month.
This period gives time for the lady of the hour’s family to settle on official conclusions and get ready for the wedding. On the off chance that they happen to alter their opinion, for whatever reasons, at that point just return theki of curd to the prepare’s side, flagging the changing choice.
Upon the arrival of marriage, the prepare approaches the lady of the hour in the organization of a parade, a janti (the prepare’s escort including relatives and companions), with blessings—pieces of clothing, shawl, shoes, shoe, beauty care products and so forth. Once at the lady of the hour’s place, they are treated with exceptional dinner and indulgences. The lady of the hour spruces up for the event and in a portion of the attire introduced by the prepare.
The most critical piece of the service happens with the lady and prepare sitting one next to the other. The senior individuals from the lady of the hour’s family at that point wash their feet and really sprinkle similar water into their mouth (directed for virgin relational unions just), and later give them with gifts and ceremoniously giving them each tika.
This custom, called the Palikruba in Gurung, is of most prominent significance in fixing the marriage. It is a passionate time for the lady of the hour’s family as it passes on the last separating of their little girl from her natal family to the prep’s family.
A wedding gathering is called at the lady’s living arrangement where every one of the villagers and relatives assembles. A great dinner is served of customary steamed rice, lentils, sel roti (rice doughnuts), hot pickle, singed meat, green vegetables and raksi (neighborhood alcohol). After the devour is the lady of the hour is taken by away to the husbands to be a house on the back of either her dad or a sibling.
There is one a player in the custom of flight when the lady’s sisters shroud the prepare’s shoes and request overwhelming pay to have them back. The lady of the hour’s relatives additionally endeavor to block the prepare’s way as the lady of the hour is taken away, by a deride assault against them, which is fought off by the individuals from the janti holding umbrellas. These happy occasions are completed only as a muffle and for satisfying the custom.
Once at the prepare’s place, as the lady of the hour goes into the house interestingly, she delicately thumps over an amkhara (a customary copper container) loaded with rice and coins. She is all the more formally acknowledged into the prep’s home and family with a tika function by the seniors. This finishes the formal marriage custom. It is trailed by an intricate wedding party for the prep’s family and companions.
Another wedding service of intrigue is the Dhurikhawa marriage, an abnormal yet fascinating feature to the conventional Gurung relational unions in Parbat District. Dhurikhawa truly signifies “column” in Gurung, and is a sort of marriage where the lady of the hour is as far as anyone knows wedded to a column.
This marriage is directed without the prepare at the season of marriage, particularly critical the same number of young men from the group look for enrollment in the Nepal, Indian or British Gurkha armed forces and may not be home for a drawn-out stretch of time.
It is a sort of marriage in absentia, fixing the union until the point that the prep comes back to the town from abroad. A kid’s family chooses a reasonable lady for him and behaviors the Dhurikhawa union at the promising time chose by the Lama, so as not to give it a chance to pass.
The custom demonstrations that go with a Dhurikhawa marriage are speculative, yet basically the same as with a Magi Biwaha, portrayed above, with the prepare’s family proposing the lady of the hour with conventional theki and shagun blessings.
The main contrast is that she weds the principle supporting mainstay of the prep’s home rather than the kid himself while anticipating his arrival. By then in the service, she is given endowments and gifts from the older folks and invited into her future home.
The third type of Gurung marriage is called Bhagauney, truly ‘fleeing’ or elopement. This marriage normally happens when a couple is infatuated; in any case, one of their families differs from the marriage. Bhagauney is most regular amid Maghe Sankranti, a celebration celebrated at the start of the sacred month of Magh, around mid-January. Amid the celebration, they prepare and his relatives kidnap the lady of the hour and request that she weds him.
The function of gift and putting tika is finished up at the prepares home and the lady of the hour is formally invited as another relative. A wedding party is later sorted out for the prepares family and companions while the lady of the hour’s family is educated of the marriage later on.
The lady of the hour’s family may not concur on the wedding, but rather upon their endorsement, the lady of the hour and prepare welcome to their place. There they are treated with exceptional delights took after by a tika service and blessings.