This post is dedicated to Tips, Ways, Methods, and Steps related to How to Remove or Eradicate or Solve Dowry system problems. We all knew that Dowry system is such type of practice of giving money, estate, property, gifts or some special kinds of goods at the marriage of a daughter by the father to the bridegroom’ family.
Dowry system is one of the great problems in Nepal, India, and Bangladesh. The girls’ family gives money to boys’ family and they will spend all the money for nothing. It is a financial burden carried by the head of the bride’s family. Dowry system is spreading day by day very badly. Dowry deaths are occurring. Women are physically and mentally tortured by the bridegroom’s family. Dowry system is social evils prevailing in Nepal.
Like all over the world, Dowry became prohibited by law in Nepal too. The anti-dowry law is sometimes and somewhere misusing. Despite the anti-dowry law in Nepal, dowry system is practiced widely and illegally across the country, especially southern part of Nepal called Madhesh or Terai.
Dowry disease is spreading more and more by the so-called educated and intellectual young guy. I think despite demanding dowry from the father’s in law, he has to come in front of society to denounce dowry to be an example. The most important role to eradicate dowry system in our society is the parents’ role.
Many parents of our society are not sending girls to the school and college to study because they think that she will need a more qualified man who demands more money. And it is happening in our society that educated man demands more than uneducated man. But thinking and doing this is a symbol of foolish. It is the short-sightedness. Dowry system is social evils prevailing in Nepal.
Dowry system is prevailing in Nepal as one of the burning diseases which mostly seem in Terai or Madhesh region. It has made stock the mind and thought of many people. There does not seem any marriage which does not include the role of dowry systems. In the Madhesh region, it has been working as the destruction face because of its negative impact on bride family. Dowry is mostly taken for giving best bridegroom to the family of the bride.
It is also in prevail that most of the rich bride family self-pays the huge amount on the behalf of their daughter happiness. The bride family thinks that my daughter will not have to face any kind of obstruction, or hazard. That is why also, there happens the role of finance transaction. Some also take the dowry as the selling of boys to girls family as it exposes the reality.
The dowry mostly prevails in the high-class family who have the job holder bridegroom and want to marriage with their below level girls. At that time, the father of bride pays the high amount to make them or convince them to marry with his daughter.
Dowry in Nepal cannot be seen in Himalayan region or in Pahadi community because of their own thought. This is also the good region for giving the value and equal respect and treating to both bride and bridegroom. They take the marriage as the meeting of two hearts and are made by the god to spend the life together not only for entire life but for seven incarnations.
The reasons, causes, and solutions have also their role in its eradication and elimination. Many organizations have also worked in these sectors but have got nothing in their hands as result. Their laboring has gone useless and because of no achievement. In Terai, dowry has become the bridge and ground of performing the marriage ceremony.
There even seems the mediator for making the bargaining in the amount for arranging the marriage. If the task gets matched and the amount gets accepted then only the works of further marriage is proceeding forward. Without a dowry, even the marriage also get breaks before the marriage will arrange.
Sometimes, dowry plays the good role for making the marriage ceremony with such girls who are not getting the good bridegroom. In that case, the girls get good bridegroom when their family pays a huge amount. according to the law of Nepal, it is the punishable offend. Although, it has not been stopped practicing.
Dowry is prevailed and in use not with open bargaining but internally. Sometimes it also seems that there is done contract between only with bride father and bridegroom father except for others. This is the secret crime which is prevailing under the eyes of government and law. This should be also stopped if the different programs are brought and strictly access them to the ground level person.
Dowry start to shrink if the following programs and matter should be provided and practiced clearly with positive intention. Nowadays, it is also in decreasing level because of many programs and social understanding awareness has been reached to most of the eth people.
It is the responsibility and duties of the young generation to eradicate the problem of dowry. It is difficult to eradicate dowry system not only in Nepal but also other countries of the world. There are ways, tips, methods, and steps of removing and eradicating dowry system in our society.
How to Remove, Eradicate Dowry system Problems – Tips, Ways, Methods
Some ways, tips, methods and steps of removing and eradicating dowry system problems are as follows:
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1. Awareness program campaign:
This is also the one of best solution of dowry systems to avoid the prevailing. Awareness program can be accomplished by several ways for effecting and making understand the people mostly targeting the lower or ground level people. Awareness programs can be done by spreading the message and making the women active about this issues.
Awareness campaigners should able to make the women or girls of village understand and teach about the defect and bad consequences of dowry system. There can be performed eth street dance to attract the people m and make crowd so that the message can spread as more as possible.
To eliminate the dowry system, awareness program will play the effective role because of teaching and explain about the bad impact of it in society and life of bride family as well as a bride too.
Even the bride are dominated in their husband home if there still exist some amount that has not been paid after marriage. There are many defects and damage of it. Awareness program should be also given mostly by the girls who have faced these problems to make the campaign more effective and girls more understand. the matter should be clearly described and also give chance to asked a frequent question to clear their illusion and fear.
An awareness campaign can be done directly or indirectly without the access of people which will not make the positive impact. The campaign can be done by the divulging through radio, television, newspapers etc. , which are indirect means of spreading the message. But when the group of campaigners moves to the village area and they are given the education and message of its all parts and facets, directly would make the high impact of eliminating it.
2. Punishable law:
The law of Nepal is flexible because of not is practice strictly as we know that government has mad the rule against dowry system but not working strictly in this sectors. Even the person who has contact with great leaders are freely get rid of the police trap. government is not even working to eliminate it by punishing those who are involved in these activities.
Many of the marriage is completed by dowry but even in some marriage the administration or leaders become the face of the prominent guest.
When the government would not punish the family who tries to pay and take the dowry, it will spread its wings in large size. There is the provision of punishing to those who practice the dowry but it has been said and written in law only not on the real ground.
Law should be equal for every community and all should be treated equally in the eyes of law. The government should make the strict a punishable law for its eradication that will also hurt the people and get scared from practicing it again. When a person gets strikes with stone makes the conscious of walking correctly. Many of the person practicing arbitrary without accepting the law.
3. EQUITY BEHAVIOUR:
It is seen that in the family also, there is not treating and practicing of equal behavior in daughter and son. This is also the problems which should be solved immediately as soon as possible. When parents get a son, they celebrate and recognize the function but when they get a daughter, they narrow their faces. This behavior and thought should be also destroyed and made extracted from the people minds.
The campaigners should also make them understand about the equal treatment of son and daughter because both are the part of building nations and moving the family descendant. Both help to make the parent proud by their works and now the girls are also not less than boys in achieving the great post by their capacity and ability. Son and daughter should be equally treated and loved by the parent. If all these concepts get to dig into the person minds, dowry system will self-eliminate.
4. Spreading education:
The government should also include the large description about the meaning, effects, defects as a chapter in the school books content. The student should get the information and consequence about the dowry system.
If the reading and contents are taught in the school from primary level, then the read children would not practice the dowry because they were familiar with its harmful effects. Education to both son and daughter should be given. When girls become educated then they also become respectable person will stand against dowry.
Girls and boys should get the equal school to study together and discuss this issue. It has touched the large society under their impact. Boys and girls should participate in education will surely decline its rates and effects from the society. As we know that present girls are future mother and bridegroom.
And it is saying then when the women is educated it means the whole family is educated. Nowadays even it prevails that the bride who is literate try to marriage with literate girls without a dowry. So the dowry can be slowly eliminated also by the good education system. The school and college should be opened in every village that would make eth touched of every poor to the medium family for education.
5. Reduction of poverty:
This is also the major problem which is increasing in its negative impact rapidly in some places. Much Nepalese are below the poverty line and they even hardly fulfills the needs of the family in surviving level. People who do not maintain their earning for fulfilling the basic needs can how to maintain the education to their children.
They cannot provide the children education and also instruct them to work for maintaining the family needs. The government should provide the education free to make them educated. Poverty is also the main problem which should be reduced to make the people standing. So that they can easily provide the better education to their children which impact to solve the problem of dowry gradually.
6. Employment opportunity:
Many of the person or bride even taken the dowry for having the capital to do their private business or for opening any shop. Every girl and boy should get job opportunity for making the standard. When the people do not get a job, then they have to fight with poverty and problems in the family.
They even get difficult to solve all the problem of the family because of no cash in hands. When all the people are employed, people will get a job and easily make their children educated with the best knowledge. Employment should be given according to the oddities of girls and boys for making the post more prestigious and valuable.
But in the society, there is the practice of nepotism in many vacancy announcements which also makes the post degrade. employment also plays a role to decline its mark existence from the society.
7. Motivation to student:
A lazy man can also become active like rabbits by the motivation. Motivation is such rave which makes the people courageous and dedicated towards their works for doing it positively intend. The student should be targeted mostly while motivating. Many students belong from the family where there is the practice of dowry.
If they are motivated by the motivation concept, then they also play their role to make always their parent from dowry. dowry cannot be eliminated by anyone saying. It would make the society free from dowry serially because of their influence in the society. The student is the future idols of the nations. The message should be spread initially at the learning phase which indicates towards the students.
8. Social torture:
Social torture has also affected the dowry system. There are many people who are habituated of this kind of activities and they also encourage other for having it. Taking dowry has also become the social rule for completing marriage happily. It also seems that when the bride father has not given the dowry then they are also dominated by the bridegroom’s side. To prevent from this also, some amount as dowry is given as a blessing to the bridegroom. People from the side of bridegroom make a jest and tease them because of not paying dowry. Social torture has also affected which should be avoided by the law and punished them strictly.
9. Making women self-independent:
Most of the people do not let their wife do the job. They give instruction to cook food and do homo works. They are not given permission to do work outside because of their thought. This concept has also made the great roots in the society. Women should be also given opportunity and permission to do their personal job.
If they become independent then they can easily handle the family and fulfill the needs. When girls do not need the husband earning for spending their lives, it also becomes an obligation to the bride for not taking the dowry and it will happen.
Boys also get the wife who is self-independent and have the ability to maintain the family needs by their earning which will also make the pressure reduction of the husband. This types of thought and women independent are also major points which will help to solve the dowry system.
10. Gender equity:
The Nepalese society is also suffered from the gender inequality were the son and daughter are seen and treated with two different eyes and two different intention. In many societies, it is also taken that the son is the forecasting of becoming rich and daughter are the forecasting of making poor due to dowry donation.
Practicing inequity also has increased the dowry system. girls are not given the right to make them involved in all responsible works. Gender equity should also be practiced strictly by making the law for betterment, helps to declines the growth and impact of dowry system.
11. Changing conception:
This will also be one of the solutions to change the society through the transformation of concept through people networks and social network. Nowadays many platforms are available to share our view and conception.
Different drama and short videos can be installed on the all the platform that helps to spread the message about it and aware and avoid its uses for conducting the marriage ceremony. The boy is also not the goods that are sold in the subject of life partner and girls are brought by saying all these words.
12. Stoppage of early marriage:
There are also even now exist some community and places where is practicing the child marriage. According to the law of Nepal, the girls must be 20 and boys 25 for marriage. Actually, it is not happening in realistic behavior. They do their children marry with other in the intention getting freed from the pressure of doing marriage.
Marriage is also taken as one of the blunder things. Sometimes an even parent is not in the mood of doing the children marriage but due to getting the best proposal by the bridegroom parent side trolls their thought and does marriage even in early age.
When girls are married in early age, they are unknown about all the social problems cultural and life obstacles to fight with them and live in a managed way. Early age marriage also makes them independent and that is why they have to pay the dowry. Early marriage should be banned forcefully to avoid the use of dowry.
13. Respecting them as a goddess in behavior:
This is also the major things that should be improved and spread the awareness in the society. Many of the boys are using the girls as their pleasurable provider. The boys even show their vulgarity towards the girls because of their amiable and calm character. Girls should also be respected as a goddess. According to Hindu epic, girls have given the respect and post should be respected and treated as a goddess as ideal idols.
14. Equal rights:
In Nepalese society, girls and boys are not even treated equally due to their right determination. Girls have not given equal rights as boys deserve. Girls are even treated as the second citizen and not people give the priority in any program. When the government makes the provision of equal rights to every boys and girl, then the eyesight of people will change towards the girls.
Equal rights also make the girls robust to claim and speaks against the dowry strictly and openly. Presently, girls voices are pressurized by the threat of a family or even the social pressure. Girls feel scarce to share their crime and action that she had face due to dowry. Girls should also give right and their voice should also be noted in the government diary to solve the dowry systemrootly.
15. Employment and creating training providences:
Employment training should also play the crucial role to make the women self-independent. Girls dependency on husband has increased the dowry rapidly. When girls become self-dependent, then she also raises the voice against the bridegroom about their capability and capacity.
She will not stay and spend their life under the earning of their husband. Boys also have not to take any kind of responsibility for maintaining the needs of the family because girls can maintain it by self-learning. It’s also the major solution points that will work for the eradication of dowry system.
16. Reduction of mental torture:
When girls do not want to marry at child age, parent torture and behave brutally with her. She even becomes obliged to accept the critical situation and ruin their life. Parents do not think about their future consequence. They only think to send their daughter to another home by doing marriage.
Mental torture and pressure of giving them to marriage with parent selected boys are also the major reason which has made the existence of dowry.
17. Intercast marriage :
Due to religious and cultural society and thought exist in people, they do not let their daughter and son marry in another cast. When the boys or girls marriage in the same case, they do not have extra option to select the choosy boys or girls. When girls and boys do marriage by their own choice, then the dowry will self-extracted. Dowry is mostly practiced in caste marriage. This should also be made prevalent to make inter cast marriage without the deter of social intervention.
18. Stopping girls trafficking:
Girls trafficking also affects the dowry system. When there is fear of girls trafficking in the area, the daughter parent wants to marry their daughter as soon as possible. In that hasting situation, they pay the dowry for getting the good husband of their daughter.
Every parent wants to marry their children in good and respectable as well as prestigious family. They also have fear of girls trafficking that my daughter may be trapped by someone and trafficked. So to get rid of that scare also, they transfer the responsibility in other arms by marrying their daughter. Dowry is paid to bridegroom’s parents.
19. A society free of discrimination:
The society should also be free from the discrimination and girls should be seen with same eyes by giving the equal respect and equal value. Both girls and boys are the two wheels of the same chariot.
- First of all, discriminating between a girl and a boy should be stopped.
- Public awareness should be raised through different media.
- Girls should be sent to school equally as boys. Give girls a chance to education and be patient.
- Women should be given equal parental property rights
- They should be given education and skill development training.
- Dowry system should be totally discouraged by the law.
- The educated man has to show the courage to stop this evil system of our society.
- Society anyhow has to consider this fact that dowry is not benefiting for us. Our society role is most vital.
- Don’t force girls to marry in the early age.
- Girls also must have to show the entire courage to reject the boys who are demanding dowry.
- When the girls are focused on quality education, the right training, got employment opportunities and economic independence, girls can raise hands against dowry.
- All Girls of our society have to be confident that no girls are worse than boys.
But all these things can’t happen in a single day or overnight. It may take some time, right planning, and lots of wealth. One day society will be changed and step to eradicate the dowry.
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