How to celebrate Bhai Dooj
If the brother is away from the home or if the daughter is married and living in their own home then, sisters request their brothers to come to their home for celebrating this festival with their beloved dishes. Sisters, on this day, pray to God to give blessings to their brothers to be protected from all the problems and bad fortune.
All the difficulties will be washed and the way of the walking path will full of happiness and respect. The brothers got the stars from the sky by wishing the best by their sisters. However, brothers follow their responsibilities towards their loving and caring sisters, brought the new saree and even the eating dishes with the new item including the love of mothers.
Sisters make a seat for their brothers by the flour of rice sit on this and receive a ceremony and makes this festival rewindable. They worship the hands of brother by applying the paste of rice and Sindoor on their forehead.
Then, sister offers flower of Kaddu, betel leaves, betel nut and coins in the palms of their brother. Sisters chant mantras by pouring water on the palm. The application of Kalawa in the hand, Tilak, and Aarti are performed. Sisters lit a lamp facing the south direction.
It is considered that it is very lucky to see the flying kite in the sky to get fulfilled the wishes requested by the God for the longevity of the brother.
This festival also joins the past memory of brother and sister. In the small or in the child age , there is great love between the brother and sister. If the brother is hurt by anything or by anyone, then the sister also fights with them and care the hurts of the brother.
Similarly, the sister is also so much cared by the brother in the child age when someone teases his sister. When someone abuses his sister then, the brother fights with them.
This also reminds the past love of brother and sister. If there is absent of love, the brother and sister started to curse each other. But these types of activities are shown least. The love of brother and sister is bound also by the festival of Raksha Bandhan.
At some place in India such as the Haryana, Maharashtra where the festival is normal to celebrate, the sister without brother (who has no brother), celebrate the particular occasion by worshipping the Hindu God Moon instead of brother. Sisters apply mehndi on their hands at this day as their custom and tradition.
Sisters who are far away from their brothers, make pray to the God moon, take aarti for the happiness and prosperity in the life of their brothers. Whereas, brothers send return gifts and lots of love to their sisters through the email, post or by other means.
This is the main reason why all children make a call to the moon by the name of Chandamama. The moon also increases their lights on the flow of earth. Things to do are primely managed by the brother and sister from their sides.
The great respect is done in the sister home.and the festival and the norms start to works. love is full in the home of sister’s heart and in the home after getting the brother from a long time.
Importance of Bhai dhuj more are
Bhaiya Dooj is a most prominent and legendary festival of India when sisters make a pray to God for their dearest brothers to get along living and prosperous life.
Sisters perform puja and tika ceremony as well as gets return gifts from brothers. It is also called in India at various places as Bhau Beej (in the Goa, Maharashtra, and Karnataka), Bhai Tika (in Nepal), Bhathru Dwithiya, Bhau-beej, Bhai Phota (in Bengal), and Ningol Chakuba (in Manipur).
It is the most celebrated festival in India which is enjoyed two days after the main Diwali festival. But this year Bhai Dooj 2016 would be celebrated in India on 1st of November, on Tuesday.
According to the Gregorian calendar, it falls on the 2nd day of Shukla Paksha in the month of Kartika (between October and November). All the sisters awaken very early in the morning, worship and pray to God and Goddesses for the better future and health of their brothers.
After puja ritual celebration takes place including tika ceremony by putting vermillion, dahi, and rice on their forehead. After this ceremony, they do aarti and offer sweet and a glass of water to eat and drink. Finally, they exchange gifts and take blessing by touching the feet of elders pointing tika and mala to each other.
It is also celebrated outside the country all over the world and in different religions with different names in different month and times. It is just like the Raksha Bandhan festival to increase the bond of love among brothers and sisters.
At this auspicious day, sisters make prayer to God for the well-being and welfare of their special brothers while brothers offer gifts according to their strength in order to show their love and care for their loving sisters.
There are the variety of stories and legends which are related to the origin and celebration of this special occasion that has discussed above.
But it’s also celebrated with following importance:
But it’s also celebrated with following importance:
1. Sharing and caring:
The coordination of brother and sister can’t be differentiated by the world. The will be helped by their owners only. Hoping the world will paste the cuteness in the wound will be a wrong and bad distraction for yourself. Men in the present forget you in second if you do do his ordering tasks.
They only want to use and take more and more works from you. Income should be more than investment, that the people think. So, this time, you get a lot of chance to share your feeling care your sister as much you can. The salary can be expended on the gift of presenting for the sister on the auspicious day of Bhai dhuj.
The long time of no seeing also creates the wish to visits and see the face of the sister if your sister is your best. No one will say something if the mistakes were taken and done by you, this festival cleanses all the sins of brother that have done in their life. The sister all fuels the brothers pocket with full of wishes.
2. Cultural and tradition:
As Diwali is the main festival of Hindu, same as it also like the festival for brothers and sisters. It is also celebrated with the wish and also compulsory due to cultural and tradition. On the last day of Diwali people have to share their love with brothers and sisters.
It’s also necessary to make and exist the better relationship between brother and sister. if the man exists , cultural also have to exist. The runner of culture is the man who follows the given tasks by the god. Man is bound by the rope of culture and tradition.
If the person is kept free without the constitution, then the man will behave like the animal, losing they’re the sense of humor. so there is formed the cultural and tradition constitution that makes man the pure. And this also the needs of man for entertaining and the way of joining the soul with god.
man wants to see the god but the god is invisible and present everywhere. The pure heart and the true devotee can only see the god. Due to the boundary of cultural norms and regulation, we have to take part in celebrating the festival, i.e. bhai dhuj or Bhai Tika.
3. Best wishes:
No one is own if there is no conduction of any relation. And nobody wishes you best. Because the people even don’t have time to talk then how can they wish you. It seems that in the society the people are sad due to the happiness of neighbor and from their own problems.
People don’t want to see your success while struggling, but they clap on your voice after becoming the success. they are not the man with humanity. These types of person do many things in their life but don’t get anything.
So to become great, your strength only determines but makes the value of people, how much you are respected and get good wishes. Relating to these factors we can evaluate this festival and takes it as the great source of wishes by the sister for achieving the brother greatly
4. Unity in the family:
The family is the branches of management of the home. The family is the lights of the home. And the family and the home have peace if there are good relations among all the members. If anyone of the family members is not happier then there starts noise and fight.
It is said that the goddess of wealth goddess Lakshmi will not sit in the quarreling home. She seeks peace and loveable home. It also determines the great sense to the family for making quiet.
And this festival creates the programs and bridges of combination and continuing the love and peace in the family due to taking part by all the members.
5. Continues the relationship:
The past memory can’t be forgotten even by wanting due to spending a long time togetherly. All the past events will take a place in the mind, that show our past relations and love among each other. So it is also the new bridges to continuing the love and relationship of brother and sister after getting married.
Bhai Dhooj Festival in India and Nepal
Bhai Dhooj is the festival of mostly Indian Hindus. In Nepal, it is called Bhai Tika and is celebrated much more popularly. It is celebrated in the month of October and in Hindu calendar of Bikram Sambat it is celebrated on the second day of the Kartik Krishna Paksha. It is celebrated along with Diwali and Tihar.
The celebration in India is similar to RakhsyaBhandhan with the activities did, however, the activities and rituals of Bhai Dhooj hold different religious as well as social significance when compared to RakhshyaBhandahan.
Different from Nepali Bhaitika, the Bhai Dhooj was previously only implied to the sisters who have married and gone to live with their husband. This was celebrated to erase the physical distance between brothers and sisters caused by the marriage of the sister and hence bring closeness and importance to the sister-brother relationship.
The festival of Bhai Dhooj is called out by many names differing from the culture and social values of each society. Many societies have their respective name or term for this festival. Especially in the large country like India, the festival has much more names.
Bhai Dhooj is called Bhai Dhooj in entire Northern part of India and observed during Diwali. The celebration is highest in the places like Uttar Pradesh and Bihar and Maithili.
Bhai Dhooj in Nepal is called Bhai Tika. It is celebrated in the month of October after biggest Hindu festival of Nepal called Dashain. It is celebrated highly by the Newars, tharus, Bhahuns, Chhetris of Nepal.
In Nepal the RakshyaBhandhan is not celebrated with major enthusiasm as a festival of brother and sister, however, Bhai Tika is considered as a major celebration of the relation of brothers and sisters.
Bhai Dhooj in Bengali is called Bhai Ponta and is celebrated on the second day of the new year after the worship of Goddess of Destruction Kali.
Among the people of Gujrat, Maharastra, Goa, and Karnataka where the people speak Marathi, Konkani and Gujarati, the festival of Bhai Dhooj is called as Bhai Bij or Bhai Beej or BhavBij.
Other names of Bhai Dhooj include Yamadwitheya, BhatruDviteeya or BhatriDitya.
Bhai meaning brother and dhooj representing the second day after the new moon, two combined it gives a clear meaning to what the festival is related about. It is the festival when sisters worship their brothers for their welfare, happiness and long life on the second day after the new moon in the month of Kartik.
On this day number of ritual are performed by the sister in the process of worshipping their brother. This festival is thus celebrated to encourage the relation of brothers and sisters and their mutual love and respect and care. There is a number of reason why the festival of Bhai Dhooj has celebrated both mythological reasons and social reasons.
In terms of the social reason, the festival is celebrated because it is believed the relation of siblings especially brother and sister are sacred. And this relation is one of the factors that keep the family intact and together.
Brothers are considered very protective of their sisters and sisters are considered to be careful and loveful towards their brothers.
This relation between brothers and sisters is believed to get raised once the brother and sisters get time to spend together which is denied to them by many factors of life such as work, jobs, marriage and other factors. sisters who are unable to meet their brothers send their tika – the spot of protection – in an envelope by post.
Virtual tilaks and Bhai Dooj e-cards have made it even easier for brothers and sisters, who’s far away from each other, especially remember their siblings on this propitious occasion.
According to the popular Hindu mythology, Lord Krishna was in an intense fight with the demon Narakasur. Narakasur refers to the meaning the devil of hell or even conqueror of hell. Lord Krishna in this intense fight defeated Narakasur and visited his sister Subhadra. Subhadra welcomed her brother with sweets and flowers.
After hearing about the intense battle of Lord Krishna and demon Narakasur she put tilak or tika in the forehead of Krishna and said that her love towards her brother will always help him win. This represented the love and care of Subhadra for Krishna. This is also considered the origin of the festival of Bhai Dhooj.
Mythologically, this day is celebrated because commemorating the length of Yamuna to save her sick brother for the God of death. Yamaraj – God of Death when visited the Yamuna, she performed a ritual with garlands and oils and foods and tika.
In the ritual, Yamuna worshipped his brother as well as Yama. She drew the line of oil around her brother and prayed that her brother remained unharmed until this line is dried. Next, she took small twigs and broke them in half and asked God to break her brothers’ enemy like these twigs.
Next, Yamuna made a garland of turfgrass and flower that doesn’t wilt. The Yamuna asked Yama to not take her brother’s soul until the flower wilts. She then put tika on the forehead of her brother with seven different colors depicting the life of her brother to be as wondrous as a rainbow.
Yama waited for the pray to be fulfilled. But the oil took time to dry and the garland didn’t wilt. It was not until next year that the flower wilted. Seeing this devotion and great lengths of Yamuna Yamaraj was very pleased and said that whoever receives Tika on this day will not be killed or will not have to face death on this day. Thus, this day is called Bhai Tika.
Yet another story behind the origin of Bhai Doojis as follows. The Enlightenment of VardhamanaMahavira: For Jains, Diwali commemorates the enlightenment of VardhamanaMahavira(the twenty-fourth and last Tirthankaras of the Jains and the founder of modern Jainism) which is said to have occurred on Oct. 15, 527 B.C.
This is one more reason to engage in Diwali celebrations for pious Jains and other than the purpose of commemoration, the festival stands for the celebration of the emancipation of human spirit from earthly desires.
This festival first signifies that the male members of a family or the men of the society should not eat the meal cooked by their wife. They should rather visit their sister and eat the meal prepared by them. If they do not have blood sisters, the practice is approved to be done with the cousin sister and perform the ritual as with their own sister.
In case the female does not have any brother they can have the same ritual with cousin brother or with any man she considers a brother. And even that is not a suiting scenario then the female can worship the Moon considering it as her brother and perform the rituals.
Whereas, brothers send return gifts and lots of love to their sisters through the email, post or by other means. Since brothers of the mother are mama to their children in Hindu culture and if the mother worships the moon the moon becomes their mama.
Moon is called Chanda in Indian native tongue. Hence the popular word Chandamama came to life to call out moon for small children.
First, the sisters invite their brothers to their home for the celebration of Bhai Dhoj. The sisters make the dishes that their brother like and enjoy the most.
Once the brother arrives at her home, she makes the brother sit in a seat made by the flour of rice. Then she worships the hand of her brother by applying the paste of rice and Sindoor a crimson color powder.
Then she offers flower of Kaddu and other ritual items in the hand of the brother. She then chants special words called mantras that are written in the religious books as she pours the water on the palm of her brother.
Now, she performs the arati. Aarti is the special way of worshipping in which lit oil lamps made of cotton is circled in the clockwise direction and prayed to god. It is believed that the heat of the oil lamp will act as a protective layer to the brother.
This is done by the sister facing south and the brother facing north. In some places, sisters who do not have their own brothers also apply heena to their hand as a custom or tradition of the festival. This heena is customary in the Haryana, Maharastra of India.
This festival brings a lot of happiness, affection, and warmth between brother and sister and their relationship. This festival is thus valid by social, cultural and religious reason and celebrated with utmost enthusiasm all across India and Nepal.
Writer: Dipak Kumar Sah