DIWALI is not only the complementary of color but also the supplementary of brother and sister love. The love is not far from the person’s heart. Love is boundary-less which is spread without boundary.
No, the person is away and is the protest against love. People are seeking the love from everyone. The son seeks the mother love and daughter wants parents affection and boyfriend wants beloved love.
The network of love is like the sky of the earth which is presented everywhere. The relationship is combined and survives only due to presence of love. If the love is absent in the relations, the relations will be no more lasting. It evaluates your intensity either the person is full of love or hate.
The man is only respected if he or she smells and behave like the flower, and disrespected if the same thing is the lack or have the attitude like the thorns of a flower. men are bound with the circle of love are also the production of love. They are forming the new aspects of loving that will be better for the relationship.
Similarly, it is shown mostly in any festival. The love of brother and sister is shown in the Diwali fifth day which is also called as Bhai dhooj. This love is brother and sister love which describes that how much the love is deeper between brother and sister.
This is also celebrated as a festival of brother and sister. The love of a brother to sister and sister to brother is heartily transferred and shown .putting the tika in the forehead of brother by sister worshipping the brother and wishing only the brightness in their future.
This festival also focuses on the rights and duties of the brother. Brother also presents gifts and exchanged the mala. Presenting the gift to sister, make the relationship more strong. This festival is called by different names in different parts of India and Nepal.
As Diwali is the festival of lights, which is a five-day long celebration. The fifth or the last day of Diwali is Bhaiya Dooj, popularly known as Bhai Dooj and called with different names.
As Diwali fall in the moon day, the more prosperity is given to this festival for brother and sister.Bhai Dooj falls on the second day after the new moon. And it is a day to pray for the long life of one’s brother, who is referred to as the god and the rakshak of a sister.
This festival marks the love between sisters and brothers and is celebrated to strengthen the bond of care and affection between the two relations, creating the new love and lights. Through the means of this festival, sisters commemorate their brothers with an auspicious tilak or a vermilion mark on their foreheads and give the blessing of goodness.
In return, brothers give gifts to their sisters and he also wishes sister best future and life. The love between brother and sister is the great combination of nail and meat. The children from the same mother never are discriminated with negative feeling looking each other.
The root of love is the mother and father. Diwali adds the color and name on the relations of brother and sister. We can see in the society that there is no love only hate is filled in both brother and sister heart after looking and seeing each other face to face.
But this festival or we can say it as the functions which are included in the package of diwali.this does not describe the relations, it only describes the love which is shown at the time of putting tika on the forehead of brother.and brother also gifts the symbol of love in return.
The essence of the Bhai dooj festival is that it is celebrated to strengthen the love between brothers and sisters. It is a day of food-sharing, gift-giving and reaching out to the innermost depths of the heart with caring and sharing the bunches of lighting love. Brothers and sisters indulge themselves on this day by giving each other gifts and wishes the best life.
Traditionally, Bhai duj is applicable for brothers of married women. Apart from strengthening the bond, it gave the chance for the brother to visit and check on the conditions of his sister at her husband’s place.
It’s the occasion of and the best chance to know the full information about his daughter’s life and home, how is her husband behaving and how is she living. Is she getting difficulties or sorrow in the father in law home?
Away from the mother, the daughter becomes helpless and loves. Mother is the sea of loving their child. So why I think and is, the mother is worshiped and valued as the greater than the god.
Reasons for celebrating this Bhai dhuj has many stories behind it, that might be the story of Krishna and his sister love, story of Yama and Yami etc
Legends of History of Bhai Dooj
Let’s talk about the story details and reality touching to the celebration of Bhai dhuj.
1. Story of god Krishna and his sister Subhadra
Tha avatar of god Vishnu in dwapar yuga in the forms of Krishna lovely called as kanahiya and Makhan chor.krishna is the funny and entertaining man loving all, he was born for killing the powerful demon Naraksura.
All the god and the people on the earth have afraid due to the fair and destruction habits of demon naraksura. Lord Krishna born and killed the great and powerful demon naraksura. Know that Krishna is the es son of devki and basukinath.
after killing Narakasur, the asura king(demon king), went to meet his sister Subhadra. Subhadra welcomed him in the traditional way by performing aarti and putting a tilak on his forehead to welcome him home.
From that epic and the love between Krishna and his sister is indefinite.so to continues the love between brother and sister , this festival is very courage celebrated all over in the India and Nepal.
2. significance of the 2nd day of Krittika
According to the Taittiriya Samhita and Devi Bhagavata, the Raasa of Devas starts in the month of Karttika. Raasa is the creation process in which consciousness is the control center and all others move around it. The axis of the earth moves around it.
Krittika and Vishakha are the two points of intersection of the ecliptic and equator. The earth’s axis moves in a circle in 26,000 years. At the first point, two branches start like the blades of a pair of scissors (krittika) and the opposite point joins the two branches (Devi-shakha or Vishakha).
So the festival Yama-dvitiya is on the second day of Karttika which is symbolized by a pair of brother-sister. This story also signifies the great bond between brother and sister. Vishakha-pattanam is bounded by 2 rivers Nagavali and Vamshadhara which start from the same place but remain separate throughout journey till sea, so it is Vishakha.
The second day after the new moon is known as “dooj” Karttika Purnima is called Raasa-Purnima because Raasa or the creation cycle (in years) starts when the sun enters the equinox point. Historically, this point was also known as Krittika. Manvantara in Brahmanda Purana, chapter 7
3. story of Yama and Yami
Once upon a time, long long ago, Surya, the sun God, was married to a beautiful princess called Samjna (also pronounced as Sangya). In the course of a year, she presented him with twins. The twins were christened Yama, and Varni or Yamuna and they grew up together.
However, Samjna, after some time, was unable to bear the brilliance of her husband, and so decided to go back to earth. However, she left her shadow, Chaya, her exact replica, behind, so that to Surya, it would appear that she was still there.
Chaya turned out to be a cruel stepmother and was very unkind to the twins. She soon gave birth to her own children and then convinced Surya to drive out Samjna’s twins, Yama and Varni from the heavens. Varni fell to earth and became the river Yamuna, and Yama went to the underworld (hell) and became the Lord of Death.
Many years passed since this incident. Varni married a handsome prince and was content and happy in her life. But she missed her brother and yearned to see him. Yama, too, missed his sister and decided one day to visit her. Overjoyed by news of her brother’s visit, Varni prepared a great feast in his honor.
It was two days into Deepavali so her home was already decorated with lamps. She lovingly prepared a feast, including all the sweets and delicacies that her brother loved. Her husband, the handsome prince, was very happy seeing Varni so dedicatedly preparing a welcome for her brother.
Yama, too, was delighted by his sister’s loving welcome, and the brother and sister spent a pleasant evening in each other’s company, after their long period of separation.
When it was time for Yama to leave, he turned to his sister and said, “Dear Varni, you have welcomed me so lovingly. But I did not bring you a gift. Ask, therefore, for something and it will be yours.”
“Your visit is gift enough,” replied Varni lovingly. “I have no need for anything else.”
But Yama was persistent. “You must let me give you a gift,” he insisted.
“Okay,” agreed on Varni, taking a moment to think. “I ask that all brothers should remember their sisters on this day and visit them if they can, and that, on this day, all sisters should pray for the happiness of their brothers.”
“So be it!” proclaimed Yama, “And I grant all brothers who give their sisters a loving gift on this day a long and healthy life!”. this wishes and sayings become the changation in the festival of a love of brother and sister.
All apart from the celebration of Bhai dhuj, it is celebrated with different names in each state of India. That is described:
Bhai dooj Festival is celebrated in most parts of India, especially northern India. In some states, Bhai Dooj festival is known by different names and in some regions, even the rituals and traditions of Bhai Dooj differ. Yet what is remarkable same is the spirit of the festival.
At all places, Bhai Dooj Festival is celebrated to strengthen the eternal bond of love shared between a brother and her sister. Given below is the short description of the Bhai Dooj Festival as celebrated in major parts of India. Extremely we can give the different name , but its forms and name describe the bond of love between brother and sister that never dies.
Different names in different places.
Bhai Phota or Bhai Fota in West Bengal
In West Bengal, Bhai Duj festival is popularly known as Bhai Phota or Bhai Fota. Sisters’ fast all morning till the ritual is completed. In Bhai Photo, the tilak applied on brother’s forehead is made of ghee, sandalwood (Chandan) paste and kaajal.
The elder of the brother and sister gives the younger ones rice and durba, a type of grass. Rice is a symbol of plenty and the evergreen durba is symbolic of longevity. Kheer and coconut laddoos are a must-eat in Bhai Photo.
Bhai Tika or Bhai Teeka in Nepal
Bhai Tika or Bhai Teeka is the popular name for Bhai Duj ceremony in Nepal. Some also know this festival as Bhai Tihar. This is because Tihar is the name for Diwali in Nepal and Bhai Tika falls on the fifth day of Diwali Festival.
In Bhai Tika a special ‘Paanch Rangi Tika’ consisting of five colors (red, green, blue, yellow and white) is applied on brother’s forehead. Her sister also draws mandaps in the name of the God using Doob grass and then carry out the Tika ceremony.
The custom symbolizes that no one can even Lord Yama can cross the boundary guarded by a loving sister. All the brother living far from daughter comes must take Tika from the sister’s hand.
Bhathru Dwithiya or Bhatri Ditya
Bhai Dooj is popularly known as Bhathru Dwithiya or Bhatri Ditya At several places. Here ‘Bhathru’ or ‘Bhati’ means brother while ‘Dwithiya’ or ‘Ditya’ symbolizes that Bhai Dooj is celebrated on the second day after the new moon.
Brothers’ visit their sisters’ on this day to carry out the ceremony. A popular custom of the occasion is ‘Bhagini Hastha Bhojanam’. This means that brothers’ must part take food prepared by their sister.
Bhaidooj Festival is also known as Yamadwitheya In some places in Northern India, This name comes from the popular legend of Lord Yamaraj associated with the festival.
The story goes that when Lord Yamaraj received tika from his sister Yami he was so much impressed with the affectionate gesture that he announced that brothers’ who receives tika from their sister on the auspicious ‘dooj’ day will be blessed with a long life.
Bhav Bij / Bhaubeej in Maharashtra and Goa
Bhai Dooj Festival is popularly known as Bhai Bij or Bhaubeej amongst the Marathi speaking community in Maharashtra and Goa. Here sisters’ draw a special square shaped space on the floor, but before allowing the brother to sit in this square he is made to eat a bitter fruit called Karith.
The highpoint of Bhau beej celebrations is the delicious Basundi Poori or Shrikhand Poori. The custom comes from the legend that says Lord Krishna tasted this fruit before he embarked on his mission to kill demon Narakasura.
Bhai Beej / Bhai Bij in Gujarat
Bhai Dooj Festival is popularly known as Bhai Beej or Bhai Bi In the Gujarati language. Just as in Bhai Dooj celebrations in rest of India, sisters’ apply sacred tika on brother’s forehead, perform aarti of him and pray for his long life. Brothers’ in turn bless their sisters and indulge them Bhai Beej gifts. Also, he can give the best wishes.
Bhai Dooj in Bihar
In Bihar, its different way of celebration, believe it or not, sisters’ begin Bhai Dooj celebrations by helping choicest of curses on their brothers! Having done that, they pick their own tongues as punishment, with a thorny, wild fruit and ask for their brothers’ forgiveness for the courses, and also for past mistakes.
Brothers’ then bless their sisters and pray for their welfare. The brothers swallow a few grains of bajri with water, before tasting yummy sweets from their sisters’ hands.
If you are brother or sister, its must necessary to know how is it celebrated. I have given you the pack of information.
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